Have you been following the Kavanaugh/Ford case?
Do you see this case as a huge win for women or a terrible injustice to men?
What are your thoughts on this case?
What is the best way to deal with cases of sexual harassment allegations that happened decades ago?
Can you accept that the details don’t really matter at all!
If you are open to the idea that we are experiencing a massive energy shift through this case… then read on my friend.
The Kavanaugh and Ford Case
The fact that you are reading this blog says that you are well aware of the recent and highly controversial court proceedings between Judge Brett Kavanaugh and Dr. Christine Blasey Ford.
All disputes aside, this blog is all about why the Kavanaugh/Ford case is a massive win for all of us!
Let me explain…
Dr. Ford publicly disclosed her allegations against Kavanaugh of sexual harassment which she claims occurred in the 1980’s (there is much dispute and critisism about the exact date) when she was 15 years old. The incident occurred at a home in the Bethesda area the USA.
I am going to be deliberately vague about the details of this case because anyone can read the entire transcript of the proceedings at, Kavanaugh hearing, Transcript.
If nothing else, Ford’s testimony on September 27th, 2018, to the Senate Judiciary Committee evoked a wide range of reactions. Reactions from anger, hate, doubt, support, retaliation and confirmation from other women who have experienced similar abuse in their lives.
Even more significantly, Ford’s testimony was aired on all the major news channels from CNN, BBC, Fox News, Al Jazeera and I’m sure numerous other national stations. The point being that this was a massively important declaration made by a woman who claims she was sexually assaulted by an influential man who could become even more influential (as I write this Kavanaugh is almost certainly going to become the next Supreme Court Judge of the USA).
But that is not even important!
This is not about winning or losing.
The case is eerily similar to the Anita Hill case in 1991. So similar but yet so different.
As I watched Dr. Ford give her testimony I was overjoyed and shocked in so many wonderful ways. If you are a woman and you watched the Hill case then you can’t ignore the fact that we (men and women) – as a society- have come a long way!
I am not even going to go into the details of the Anita Hill case or the Dr. Ford case. The details are not important! The time, the date, the place, the sequence of events, the people even… really it doesn’t matter one bit!
What does matter is that finally – a woman is given equal respect and taken seriously concerning allegations of sexual assault. Let her be heard and respected!
This is a big shift in perspective! And that is worth celebrating.
Dr. Ford did what most women do, who are sexually assaulted. We lock it away… and she did just that… safely boxed and sealed away forever… until the man who assaulted her was up for a key nomination to be Supreme Court Judge of the USA.
That opened pandoras box in early July 2018 for Ford when she saw, “press reports stating that Brett Kavanaugh was on the shortlist of a list of very well-qualified Supreme Court nominees. (She) thought it was (her) civic duty to relay the information (she) had about Mr. Kavanaugh’s conduct so that those considering his nomination would know about this assault.”
That is it! She wasn’t trying to do anything else other than speak her truth. What you or anyone else thinks really doesn’t matter. Nothing more or less.
Whether you believe her or not; isn’t the point (though surprisingly more believe her than don’t).
What is Really Important
It doesn’t matter whether Ford wins or Kavanaugh wins. It doesn’t matter if you believe her or him. It doesn’t matter what I or you think. It just doesn’t matter!
What matters is that the world listened. It matters that she was allowed to tell her story, to speak her truth. It matters that the world watched and listened.
That is what matters. That she was given the time, space and respect to be heard.
If you are a woman, you know more than anyone else in this world, the shame around sexual assault when it is inflicted upon you. The unspoken assumption that you somehow deserved it, encouraged, fabricated it or could have stopped it… and the invisible gag order that society puts upon your mouth, smearing your credibility if you dare to SPEAK the truth!
Even other women have been sold into the lie that makes you swallow your truth and bite back your pride. If you are assaulted, it is often easier to just bury it. It is easier to live with that because the shame around it keeps you quiet. If you are brave enough to challenge it, you will likely stand alone. Until now…
This swallowing of truth to keep up the pretense that all is well, has finally reached a breaking point for women. For hundreds of years, women have been forced to take their place in a man’s world.
Now I see the tide is changing…
Time to Celebrate the Nobel Peace Prize
We have a lot to celebrate as it is a significant step forward for all of us (men and women) … as it was in 1991 with Anita Hill and now with Dr. Ford. Finally, the time is ripe for the world to listen and give space and respect to a voice silenced far too long.
And wait… it gets better! Notably, within the same week, the 2018 Nobel peace prize was awarded to Denis Mukwege and Nadia Murad. Two individuals who have worked hard to end the use of sexual violence as a weapon of war.
Their work has not YET ended sexual violence… but they have shone light on the problem and given a voice to millions of women all over the world who have endured sexual atrocities in the face of war.
Mr. Mukwege has called on the world to take a tougher line on rape as a weapon of war.
Nadia Murad probes; “If beheadings, sexual slavery, the rape of children and the displacement of millions do not force you to act, when will you act?”
Sexual harassment – sexual violence – sexual abuse – against women – against men, children… anyone – hurts us all.
I am beyond happy that this crisis in humanity has the light shone upon it more clearly now than ever before.
Thank you Anita Hill, Dr. Ford, Nadia Murad, Denis Mukwege and the countless other women and men who have been brave enough to come forward – publicly – and speak their truth.
And now, you are heard… all the millions of women who are shamed and silenced and who deal with the injustice of sexual crimes … the crimes against you are not in vain because the world is waking up and ready to hear your truth.
An Incredible Shift…
The pendulum has swung!
As a result, we will hear many more incidents of sexual harassment, abuse, and violence in the future. This will be the new norm and it is about time.
The door is open and if we can listen – rather than react – to the stories, the truths and yes even the mistruths that will come to the forefront of this shift it will empower more women, men and children to come forward, to speak, heal and help create a change in attitude that will bring us all to a more powerful and respectful place.
The silence of victims has gone on too long but in the road ahead let us not lose sight of the real message.
It is far too easy to argue and fight over the details of who said what, who is right or wrong and get wrapped up in the drama of it all OR we can rise above that and see that this paradigm shift is massively healing for our world.
It is all a catalyst to change, a more empowering change, an honest and more truthful way to live for all of us.
I am so proud to be a part of that change and propel it forward!
Please share your ideas here in this space respectfully. As always I would love to hear your thoughts on this controversial topic.