We all make mistakes in life.
But what are the 3 biggest mistakes of all time?
The three big mistakes we make all have the same thing in common.
They all involve not taking ownership over our own lives.
Read on and find out how you can prevent yourself from making these same mistakes.
The 3 Biggest Mistakes of all time!
Want to know how you are doing in your life? Look around you, in your life, the people in it, how they treat you. Look at all your relationships from your career, to personal interactions, and family dynamics. Take a good look because there is your answer. Whatever you see out, there is telling you how you are doing.
Don’t like what you see, you can change that!
Like what you see? Great, let’s keep it that way right.
It is hard for some of us to take full ownership of ourselves truly. We marry people, depend on others, rely on friends, lean on family, lie to ourselves, play shenanigans to avoid truths and changes.
We are the masters of disguise – in our own lives!!!
So, let’s unveil those parts of yourself that are hard to see. Let’s step out of ourselves for a moment and look at ourselves objectively.
Making Mistakes is all Part of Living
Making mistakes is all part of learning to live in the best possible way – for you.
It all starts and ends with you.
Your mistakes are very personal. When we make a mistake, we have no one to blame but ourselves. Designed to make mistakes; we learn through mistakes, and so when we make them, we must remember to recognize the error, make the necessary change (easier said than done – I know!), then let it go and live.
If you are good at seeing mistakes in others, then turn your attention to yourself for a moment and behold a sight to see!
Big Ass Mistake #1
Let’s look at the flawed belief, that a mistake means you have done something wrong and needs to be avoided at all costs.
Really? Mistakes are not negative things to be avoided. They are challenges that teach us incredible lessons about ourselves.
If we think of mistakes as things to be avoided, we set ourselves up to be overly critical of ourselves. It puts in motion a momentum of self-condemnation.
Everything you do or say comes back to YOU, and so we are often the hardest on ourselves, when you screw up.
We are our own worst critic, and we can be shameless and brutal on our selves. We rip ourselves apart criticizing our actions, regretting, feeling guilty, talk harshly to ourselves selves and because it is all internal dialogue, it sometimes never stops, and so it cuts very deep. There is no stopping it unless we become consciously aware of what we say to ourselves.
More often than not, when I am feeling down, like REALLY down and sad, it is because I have not been speaking very nicely to myself. Yep! 9 times out of 10, that is the reason. I create my hell.
That is big mistake number 1!
Big Ass Mistake #2
Living by other people’s rules and trying to please others.
That was my first big mistake in life.
Your family, of course, is important, whether it is your kids or your parents, brother, sister, whatever… but it is YOU who has to manage stuff when the shit hits the fan. It is YOU who has to wake up and make changes in your life when things go sideways, upside down or go totally off the scale.
When you become an adult, you need to be in control of your life. You will never be happy if someone else is calling the shots in YOUR life.
If YOU are not in control of YOUR life, BIG mistake!
Big Ass Mistake #3
Oh yeah, this is the BIGGEST one, of the 3 biggest mistakes, because we ALL do it! Admit it! We love to blame others because it feels so good.
Admitting your mistakes is fantastic, but as mentioned above, do not beat yourself up over it. However, the flip side of admittance is to deny that you made a mistake at all!
The first-class route to not taking ownership of our mistakes is; FIRST, not to accept our mistakes, and we do this very convincingly by BLAMING others.
Blaming others causes more problems in our life, impairs our self-development, sabotages our empowerment, and wrecks havoc on our relationships with others.
Take responsibility for yourself, your mistakes (or challenges) and know that if you blame others for ANYTHING, you deny yourself the gold in the lesson. When we blame others we push OUR shit onto others.
Not good! Time to own that one.
Mistakes are Part of Life
Yep! We were born to make mistakes, so we need to get comfortable with that. You are not perfect; neither is anyone else in this world. Great beauty and genius come from ‘mistakes.’
The big mistake is viewing an error as a negative, as something that should never happen.
Wrap it up, Mistakes and All
So the 3 biggest mistakes we make in life are:
1) Believing that mistakes are detrimental and therefore ignored, buried or avoided.
2) Living by other peoples rules and trying to please others, and
3) Blaming others for our mistakes.
Don’t be afraid to make a mistake! For God’s sake, live a little, live on the edge, go on that trip, push that boundary, take that calculated risk, make that change you’ve been thinking about for years.
If you screw up, well, you will have learnt something about yourself. Lick your wounds and move on. You will be better off for it!
Mistakes I Have Made in Life
Well, let’s just say I’ve made plenty and lived to tell all.
So tell me please if you can relate to these 3 biggest mistakes. I think we have to accept that mistakes are inevitable in life. We are far from perfect. But what beauty there is when we get it, when we see the error of our ways, and then we can make significant changes in our lives and the lives of others. Now that is pretty amazing!
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