Go on; it is ok to be selfish when it comes to self-love.
In fact, it is absolutely imperative to love yourself at least as much as the universe or the divine power, or God loves you.
Be selfish, don’t hold back when it comes to self-love.
If you feel any lack in your life or are a people pleaser and hate confrontation, you are probably suffering from a lack of self-love.
If you love yourself less than what the divine loves you, you set yourself up for creating feelings of lack, worthlessness, self-criticism, or worse, shame and humiliation for doing things wrong in your life.
The act of self-love is the first step towards getting your power back so that you can be an empowered individual who is far more able to help others.
A well-known advocate of Self-Love is Anita Moorjani.
Watch her Youtube video on loving yourself.
Honestly, watch her videos whenever you need to fill up your energy tank or be reminded how to give yourself self-love and understand why it is SO important.
The difference between self-love and self-indulgence
So self-love means it is ok to be selfish. But be careful because excessive selfishness can easily turn into self-indulgence.
Self-love is always motivated by connecting deeply with your inner core, your essence, your spiritual depths. It is inner nourishment; you go inward to practice self-love. Setting boundaries is self-love as it protects you from people who take your power (well, you give it away to them), but it protects you. This is an act of self-love.
Self-indulgence, on the other hand, is appealing to your outer world. This is when you cater to your outer urges and needs at the expense of going within.
Examples of self-indulgence would include eating what you want, buying what you want, if you can’t afford it, demanding to get your own way at the expense of others’ wishes, and ignoring people.
Example in real life
I think that self-love was going to the spa, pampering myself, and giving myself well-deserved treats, while I lost all sense of myself in a very stressful job.
That is not self-love.
Watch this video blog, which explains the main differences between self-love and self-indulgence (or self-care) and shift your focus from doing ‘stuff’ to connecting more deeply with the real you.
Then swing over to my blog for a more in-depth look at “The Difference Between Self-love and Self-Care’.
Have you ever fallen into the trap of doing all this healthy and mindful stuff but missed the entire point of it all by not actually connecting deeply with your true inner self first?