Self-Love saved me! When I was totally lost, I really had to dive into accepting that loving myself was the only way to get sane and get my life back. To be selfish was ok.
Self-love is all about being selfish, and yes, it is ok! In fact, it is necessary to saving yourself if you have been living for and through other people.
The act of self-love is the first step towards getting your power back, by making yourself more important than all the other people in your life, and that is ok.
The Self-Love Guru is Anita Moorjani
Watch her Youtube video on loving yourself as if your life depends on it because it does.
The difference between self-love and self-indulgence
But be aware that excessive selfishness which is self-indulgence is not good.
It is a fine line. Self-love is always motivated by connecting deeply with your inner core, your essence, your spiritual depths. It is inner nourishment, you go inward to practice self-love. Setting boundaries is self-love as it protects you from people who take your power (well you give it away to them) but it protects you. This is an act of self-love.
Self-indulgence, on the other hand, is appealing to your outer world. This is when you spoil your outer urges and needs, such as eating what you want, even excessively. It means hurting others to get your own way, it might mean going to the spa and pampering yourself. So all of these things are what you do in your outer world, not your inner world.
Example in real life
I use to think that self-love was going to the spa, pampering myself, and giving myself well-deserved treats, while I lost all sense of myself in a very stressful job.
That is not self-love at all!
Watch this video blog which explains the main differences between self-love and self-indulgence (or self-care) and shift your focus from doing ‘stuff’ to connecting more deeply with the real you.
Then swing over to my blog for a more in-depth look at “The Difference Between Self-love and Self-Care’.
Have you ever fallen into the trap of doing all this healthy and mindful stuff but missed the entire point of it all by not actually connecting deeply with your true self first?
If you like to share any of your experiences or ask any questions about this, please leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you!