What is a real woman?
Would know a REAL woman if you met her?
What are the key qualities that makes a woman a strong real woman?
Characteristics of a Strong Woman
First, this post is NOT about being a real woman based on external achievements. Being real, authentic and empowered comes from strong inner knowledge.
Being a real woman is all about being, from the inside out, not from the outside in.
1) A Real Woman Knows Who They Are
A real woman knows genuinely who she is, what her strengths are, her weaknesses and where she is going and why. They are solid at the foundation level of the first, second and third chakra energy areas. They fully own their power. Their inner journey is more important than their outer world journey. Their inner world and connection within is connected to all aspects of the physical world.
REAL women own their “shit’ and when challenges come they deal with it. They are open to being flexible and even changing their values if needed. They respect soulful advice from a trusted source. Life for them is ever-changing and they don’t shy away from stepping up to play a bigger role in their life or in the lives of other people.
2) Real Women are Independent
A real woman knows how to step into her power and will be connected deeply within herself first and foremost. Connection to other relationships whether with a real man, friends, family and/or animals with be secondary. If people around her are not authentic, she will not hesitate to stand alone. She can also be a beacon of light to those who have lost their way and need inner truth guidance. There is no need to have a man or another woman in her life to make her feel safe, secure or whole. She is capable of being a lone ranger and flourishing in the process.
A real woman will not compromise who she is just to cash in on some comforts in life. Her freedom and independence are worth more than anything else.
3) Knows that the World Doesn’t Revolve Around Her
A real woman sees herself as part of a whole, not separate from the whole. She will have a strong sense of self but at the same time be totally tapped into the world beyond form. Therefore, doesn’t take things personally. She sees and understands the bigger picture of life. She doesn’t expect ‘special treatment’ and she will not hesitate to get her hands dirty, swing an axe, or do whatever it takes to get something done.
Real women do not sweat the small stuff.
A real woman is humble and flourishes in the power that she holds in her energy field. Her energy moves freely and is magnetic, alluring and seemingly mysterious all at the same time.
4) Operates with Integrity and Truth
A strong woman speaks her truth and stands firmly in that truth. She takes responsibility for who she is, how she feels, and what she does. She knows she is accountable to herself for everything she says, does, and stands for.
Real women will see right through you and any untruths you throw her way. She doesn’t have time for games and loathes game players. Real women aren’t interested in dramas or manipulations and will quietly and methodically avoid such situations and people like the plague.
5) A Real Woman Is Soulful
A real woman is deep. She will be so much more than what you first perceive. Her gifts, her personality will unfold in waves and if you are able to get to know her deeply, be prepared to take a journey that will constantly push you forward, and rip you from your comfort zone. She will challenge you as much as she challenges herself.
A strong woman believes in something much higher than herself. Her sense of self will be rooted in being connected to a spiritual reality of some sort whether it is mother earth, shamanism, God, higher energy, nature, or mysticism. She knows that the world is not all that is seen with eyes alone and that reality is a perception, an illusion; the canvas that mirrors back to you, the level of your core truth.
6) She is Passionate and Owns it!
You can feel her energy. There is no mistaking it. She can – if she wanted to – change and command the energy of a room. You see her strength in her eyes, in her smile, in the way she moves. Her eyes, smile, movements are all-knowing, natural, unpretentious. Whether you are in awe of this or threatened by it, you will feel the strong presence of a real woman before you even lay eyes on her.
Yet, a real woman doesn’t want, need or value being set apart from everyone else. She demands to be treated equally and will expect that from everyone she connects with. If you have a relationship with her she will never compromise her free spirit.
As a lover, a real woman’s blood runs hot and she has the energy of a warrior. IF you have managed to capture her attention be ready for raw, passionate connection. In the realm of REAL this is powerful stuff – so if you are looking for just a bit a fun… best you play somewhere else!
6) Is Open and Quietly Mysterious
A strong woman knows herself through and through and will speak honestly and even bluntly. Many people will find this rude or intolerable but that simply separates the real people from the game players. She is always evolving, pushing upwards, and strives to be more conscious with each passing day.
People who can’t keep up with her will think she is not grounded, flaky or even a bit crazy and yet she will own and transform all the labels that you place upon her. She will simply shatter them all – eventually – and leave you with your labels, in the dust.
7) A Real Woman WILL Challenge you!
A REAL woman is confident and knows herself to the core. Yet, when she is shaken she will not hesitate to retreat and connect with her inner source until she is strong again. She knows what she can handle when to love, when and how to fight, when to hide, regroup or reconnect. There are many skills she has to use in times of trouble and need. She aims to thrive, not survive. She takes times of challenges very seriously and sees them as an opportunity to grow in integrity and strength. And if you are weak, out of balance or not being truthful, she will not hesitate to challenge you, your beliefs and your actions.
There is nothing complicated about her at all. She is straight, clear, true, knows herself and says what she means. No drama here.
8) Is Not Afraid to be Vulnerable
As strong as a real woman is, she is also extremely vulnerable and sensitive to energy. She listens with all her heart, she makes decisions from her soul and she will connect with you deeply if you are equally able to go that deep with her.
A real woman is open to learning from her weaknesses and will expose them for all to see. She has the courage and isn’t ashamed or afraid to expose her true self.
The real woman isn’t afraid to open up to other people who enter her circle. They love to share wisdom, truths, life, joys and hardships. She communicates well, is playful and true, and she knows instinctively what you need. She will be your best ally in times of need.
10) A Real Woman Is a Quiet Warrior
This does not mean a real woman is a fighter in a masculine way. A real woman knows that she has to fight her own way – the feminine way. This involves far more skills than simply using brute force. A REAL woman uses Wisdom over Muscle.
A real woman is not afraid to fight her battles, stand up for what she believes, fight for her family, support the ones she loves and challenge old beliefs, and even shatter preconceived stereotypes and prejudices. Whatever it is that she believes in, she will not be afraid to fight for what is right.
A force to be reconciled with, a real woman can’t be stopped from stating her case and changing the tide of some issue… ultimately creating a profound change on a bigger scale.
A real woman may lose ‘a’ battle, but that doesn’t stop her because she knows it isn’t about one battle – she is always a winner because she always fights for a greater cause, which is much bigger than her. Real women know this as well as she knows herself.
It is NEVER just about her!
REAL women truly strive to Be, Live & Speak their TRUTH!
Real Women in our World Today
Not only are these women great in their own right, but they encourage and support other women to step into their power and lead like they should from the place of their strength, not like a man, but as a real woman.
Jacinda Kate Laurell Ardern, New Zealand’s prime minister. This is the way feminine energy rules!
Brene Brown, Professor and Author of some amazing books and research on shame and vulnerability. A topic that is all too familiar for women
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Nigerian Author and feminist.
Nadia Murad became the first Iraqi to be awarded a Nobel Prize in 2018. Complete courage, honesty and a powerful voice for change.
Greta Thunberg, climate change activist.
Lady Gaga, creatively she leads them all.
There are so many more.
Aspiring real women out there, be better and bigger than you ever thought you could be. Rip yourself out of yourself and be more than you ever imagined possible. And, in whatever it is that you do… be REAL and authentic about it.